Why dating is important in a marriage with kids
- Is dating in marriage important?
- Is it the key to a happy marriage?
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The answer: YES! Absolutely, yes!
Ladies, if you are not dating your husband, I am here to tell you; you got to!
There is something about dating that brings out the best light in people. It sparks excitement! It awakens your desires and needs for a particular person, and when you find that person you know is right for you, you marry them, and you hope to build a long-lasting happy marriage.
The challenge in marriage is that it requires adjustments because you have two lives merging into one. But adjustments can also mean a change in career or location. In most cases, requiring adjustments to make room for children is most commonly found in married families.
These adjustments, however, can sometimes get ahead of us, and somehow, our marriage lands on the back burner. Not intentionally.
Here are ways you can date your husband:
- Be active.
- Be intentional.
- Be intimate.
Be active.
- Go on a hike
Make it fun! Release those endorphins and get energized together!
There are many benefits to hiking, but hiking with your husband is incredibly rewarding.
Hiking with your husband is also a great way to gain some reflection- to get to know your husband again and learn each other’s strengths and weaknesses. In hiking, there is only one goal: to get to the final destination. With the two of you focusing on one goal, it helps to gain essential perspectives about marriage- that it is a lot of work and it’s important to work “together” for a marriage to be happy, let alone thriving.
Be intentional
- Have meaningful conversations with him
Connect with your husband deeper and get inside his inner thoughts and feelings.
Speak words of affirmation to him. Tell him how important he is to you and why. Make him feel validated by complimenting him. Remind him why you fell in love with him and still love him. Not just on your date, but every day, without fail.
But most of all, and most importantly, have fun. Talk about things you’ve been interested in lately. Ask about your husband’s interests, and don’t forget to lend him your full uninterrupted attention.
Be intimate.
Do you remember yourselves as a newlywed? When you two couldn’t keep your hands off of each other? Be that couple again.
Show your husband that you’ve missed him and make him feel wanted. In marriage, you are his queen, and he is your king, so treat him as such.
Affirmation is essential in a marriage, and there is nothing more affirming than the physical touch between a husband and a wife.
Here are other ways to show intimacy:
- Give him a back rub.
- Massage his feet.
- Go for a walk and hold his hand.
- Cuddle in his arms when watching a movie.
- Give him kisses throughout your date night.
